I need to decide how crunchymunchy I am. Really, what kind of parent do I want to be?Posted: January 19, 2011
Am I one of those “crunchymunchy” parents? You know what I mean. “Crunchymunchy” as in the type of people who eat crunchy food like organic granola, wear hemp, and nurse their babe until he’s headed to kindergarten. So, in terms of parenting style, where do I fall on the authoritarian-to-crunchymunchy spectrum? I need to decide. And the thing is, I find myself leaning more and more towards the crunchymunchy end of things. But don’t worry, I won’t be showing up for kindergarten snack time to breastfeed.
The recipient of my parenting attempts and efforts is my son Sam. While I was pregnant, people told me that Sam would be the joy of my life. I was a smidge concerned because after all I’m not really a “baby person,” but they were right. Sam is now seven months old, and he is indeed the joy of my and my husband Jack’ s lives. I want to do this parenting thing right. (I’ll make mistakes of course; no one is perfect.) I don’t want to raise Sam a certain way if it is for no other reason than that was the way I was raised. Frankly, I’m not too thrilled with the way I was raised. I need to find a new parenting style, a different way of relating to my child. And it looks like it’s going to have a crunchymunchy flavor.
During my spare few minutes here and there, I’ll be blogging about my trials and experiences with a more crunchymunchy style of parenting. I expect to cover topics such as sleeping, pacifiers, eating, discipline, gender, and health, to begin with. Of course as he gets older the issues will change. I’ll also share a lot of my thoughts on some parenting experts. I’ve been particularly taken with Alfie Kohn’s book Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. I haven’t yet finished it, but I agree with a lot of what Kohn is asserting, and I’m excited to see how his theory works in real life. Mostly though, I am excited to spend my days with Sam – teaching him, loving him, laughing with him, and showing him the world. You may not get to go to the farmers market or playgroup with us, but I invite you to laugh, learn, and share in our experiences right here.